Wedding & Anniversary Grooming Tips for Men
Whether you’re the main attraction (groom) or a trusty sidekick (groomsmen), wedding days call for men to look their best. And even if your wedding is a thing of the past, you’ve always got anniversaries to deal with. Here are some men’s grooming tips to handle both the wedding and everything that comes after (or any formal event you are invited to). Grooming Tips for Men * Looking good takes some work and time, so begin a basic skin care routine of cleansing, exfoliating and moisturizing early to get the greatest results. Once a day (or twice if you have oily skin), wash with a liquid cleanser to remove debris and clear pores. Follow with a high-performance moisturizing product to keep skin smooth, hydrated and looking great. Two to three times a week, exfoliate with a face scrub to remove dead skin cells and improve skin’s surface. * If you’ve never spent time on a skin care routine before, consider purchasing a kit that contains all of the products you will need to get started. It takes the guesswork out of figuring out what products to use for what (and can make excellent groomsmen gifts, too!). * Treat individual problems, such as under-eye circles, fine lines and acne, with products specifically formulated for them. * For superior shaving without irritations like ingrown hairs, use products that are gentle and don’t contain irritants such as fragrance, menthol or alcohol. Avoid foamy products, as these do not lubricate skin adequately. Change your blade after 4-5 uses to keep from going over the same place more than once due to a dull blade. If possible, shave in the shower as the steamy air will open pores and allow hairs to be shaved closely. * For super-smooth shaving the day of the big event, skip shaving the day before and then shave in two steps: First, shave with the grain with very light pressure. Second, reapply a thin coat of shaving cream and shave against the grain for smooth results. * Regularly wash your hair with a gentle shampoo that will remove dirt without stripping away natural moisturizers. Make sure to get a haircut or trim a few days before the wedding or anniversary, but don’t opt for a new style the day before since this could turn out to be a disaster. * Nails & Hands: With all the hand-shaking and hand-holding going on, it’s a good idea to make sure nails are clean and trim, and hands are moisturized and free of grime. Why not splurge for a manicure? More and more men, from businessmen to movies stars, are getting them these days, and trust us: Sparkly polish will not be involved. * Wedding and event planning begins months, and sometimes years, ahead of time, so take advantage of the wait by getting fit with a nutritious diet and a regular exercise routine. * Don’t stink up the place: Make sure to wear deodorant. Keep breath mints handy for those slow dances. * Some wedding experts recommend men skip cologne at weddings, citing the fact that there will already be a lot of perfume in the air, as well as scent from the flowers. If you choose to wear cologne, keep the scent light and the application to a minimum. * For anniversaries, gifts don’t have to be elaborate or expensive. Plan a getaway weekend somewhere, even if it’s only two towns away. Book a spa appointment for the two of you and spend a day relaxing. Or instead of an expensive dinner, try revisiting a place you ate at when you first started going out, or a place you two have always wanted to try. The point is to celebrate your marriage any way you see fit.
About The Author
Deidra Garcia is a freelance writer and communications manager for MenScience Androceuticals, a men's skincare and grooming company. You can find more articles by Deidra, as well as further tips and advice, at http://www.MenScience.com.
Solving Sports-Related Skin, Hair & Body Grooming for Men
by: Deidra Garcia
Sports are the perfect way for men to get in shape and have a good time doing it. But with greater exercise often comes greater challenges to your skin and body, and we’re not just talking about sore muscles here. Learn how you can control and eliminate common men’s grooming and skincare problems as you continue to work towards your fitness goals. Facial Acne: Exercise and sweat can lead to acne breakouts, as grime accumulates in blocked pores. But you can prevent reoccurring acne with a daily application of an acne treatment containing Benzoyl Peroxide. Back Acne (Bacne): Shower as soon you’re done working out and regularly exfoliate skin with a scrub brush. Keep hair from hanging on your shoulders and back, and wear exercise clothes that whisk sweat from skin’s surface. Body Odor: You can’t have exercise without B.O., but you can control it by washing as soon as you’re finished exercising and using a deodorant that doesn’t just mask odors with a heavy scent, but rather targets and neutralizes bacteria. Sunburn: A match on the courts is a great way to stay in shape, but forget to slap on sunscreen and you’re sprinting towards a world of pain (and future ages spots and wrinkles). Men require a sunscreen that provides broad-spectrum protection against UVA/UVB rays and won’t wash away with sweat. Athlete’s Foot: Caused by moist conditions and friction in your shoe, athlete’s foot is an irritating problem that affects many guys. Keep feet as clean and dry as you can by washing your feet with a cleanser that contains antibacterial ingredients and drying them thoroughly after exercising. Damaged hair: Swim for long enough and you’ll develop sculpted waist, arms and legs…and brittle hair?! Rinse hair with fresh water before taking a dip (this will cut down on the amount of chlorinated/saltwater absorbed) and immediately after. Wash hair with a gentle shampoo to rebalance moisture levels and protect follicles, and wear a swim cap if you swim regularly.
About The Author
Deidra Garcia is a freelance writer and communications manager for MenScience Androceuticals, a men's skincare and grooming company. You can find more articles by Deidra, as well as further tips and advice, at http://www.MenScience.com.
Out of the Shade and Into the Fire: Raising Awareness for Men’s Skin Cancer
by: Deidra Garcia
Over half the forms of cancer diagnosed every year are skin cancer, and it is one of the most common forms of cancer among men. According to the American Academy of Dermatology’s 2007 Skin Cancer Fact Sheet, one out of five Americans will contract skin cancer at some point in their lives, and if you’ve had more than five sunburns in your life, you’ve doubled your risk of getting the disease. In light of these startling statistics and with new scientific research about the dangers of sun exposure constantly being released to the public, why are people still choosing to forgo sun protection? Men seem to be especially susceptible to carelessness when it comes to protecting their skin from the sun’s rays. In a study conducted by the University of Texas, only 34% of men interviewed said they regularly used a sunscreen. This is in comparison to approximately 78% of women. Higher instances of sun carelessness could be attributed to athletic lifestyles, outdoor jobs and the fact that while a great deal of recent attention has been given to women’s skin health, men are often left to find information out for themselves. The true horror of skin cancer is that it is one of the most preventable forms of the disease. We at MenScience are very concerned about this epidemic among men and want to provide them with the tools and knowledge to prevent them from becoming future victims. With improved attention and awareness, the number of men who will contract skin cancer can be dramatically reduced. Some of the simplest things to keep in mind are protection and observation: * Avoid prolonged sun exposure from 10 AM – 4 PM. This is when the most intense rays appear. * Cover skin with shirts, pants, hat and sunglasses. * Every month or so, the American Cancer Society recommends that men check their skin, existing moles and birthmarks for changes in size, color or texture. Men are urged to see a doctor if changes are apparent. This is one of the most effective steps for catching problems before they can become life-threatening. * Regularly wear a sunblock that contains an SPF of 30 and shields skin from both UVA and UVB rays. These are the most harmful forms of sunlight, and all areas of your skin should be protected. Keep application consistent and try to repeat several times if you’re outside for long periods of time.
About The Author
Deidra Garcia is a freelance writer and communications manager for MenScience Androceuticals, a men's skincare and grooming company. You can find more articles by Deidra, as well as further tips and advice, at http://www.MenScience.com.
Emergency Men’s Grooming Fixes for Special Occasions
by: Deidra Garcia
Grad Season.Wedding Season. Springtime. Wintertime. It doesn’t really matter what time of the year it is---it seems like there’s always a holiday or event just around the corner that you’ve got to look good for. Don’t worry though; there’s no need to panic. MenScience has broken down the stages of men’s grooming from the hour before you walk out the door to what you should be doing all the time. Whether it’s a big date, college graduation, or a holiday party, you’ll look like a polished man no matter what the occasion. Code Red (An hour before the event): 1. Shower immediately and shampoo. Gently exfoliate face with a face scrub. This will smooth and revitalize skin in under two minutes. 2. Shave: Try skipping shaving the day before a big event to make sure you get a close shave the day of. You can do several shaving passes then for a super-close result.) 3. Target an unexpected acne pimple: Apply an ice cube to a blemish for a few minutes to help reduce inflammation and size temporarily. Then, cover acne breakout with a small amount of acne treatment medicine and let absorb to reduce bacteria on the surface and get immediate results. 4. Go easy on the moisturizer to avoid a shiny, oily look. Code Orange (The day of the event): 1. Press clean clothes, or get them pressed at the dry cleaners or laundromat a few days before. 2. Trim and clean beneath fingernails. 3. Cut unwanted hairs, such as nose and ear hair. Yeah, it’s gross, but it makes a huge difference. 4. Relieve puffy or tired eyes by laying a frozen eye mask wrapped in a washcloth over eyes for 5-10 minutes. Diminish dark under-eye circles by placing an eye mask in hot water, wrapping in a washcloth, then placing over closed eyes for 5 – 10 minutes. Follow by applying a moisturizer for the eye area. Code Yellow (A few days to a week before the event): 1. Get a haircut. A trim is always a good idea, but if you’re going for a new hairstyle, do it a couple of days before the event. A horrible cut can often be managed if you have a few days to work with it. If your eyebrows are especially bushy, ask the barber about trimming to thin them a bit. 2. Book a manicure. Many barbershops and grooming lounges now offer them for men, and it’s a great preparation for the hand-shaking you’ll be doing. 3. Exfoliate your skin. Gently removing dead cells from the skin’s surface can immediately brighten your tone, smooth roughness and improve your overall appearance, but for the most optimal results, begin exfoliating your skin regularly 2 -3 times a week beforehand. 4. Clear your face. Achieving clear skin takes time, but there are some acne ingredients, like Benzoyl Peroxide, which start working immediately to eliminate blemishes. Code Blue (All the time): 1. Don’t use bar soap: It can dry skin out over time, emphasizing fine lines and causing irritation and redness. Use a liquid cleanser instead. 2. Moisturize. Incorporate a lightweight, non-greasy moisturizer into your regular skincare routine, and your skin will be ready to party, anytime! 3. Prevent signs of aging by taking care of your skin now with an anti-aging treatment. Regular, early use can provide rewarding results within a few weeks and years down the road. 4. Stay in shape by exercising and following a healthy diet. Take high-quality supplements formulated specifically for men to receive valuable nutrients and promote better health overall.
About The Author
Deidra Garcia is a freelance writer and communications manager for MenScience Androceuticals, a men's skincare and grooming company. You can find more articles by Deidra, as well as further tips and advice, at http://www.MenScience.com.
Men's Acne Facts versus Fiction
MenScience gives the inside scoop on myths and facts about men’s acne and acne treatments. How much do you really know about breakouts? Take our quiz and see for yourself! 1. Popping acne pimples makes them go away faster. * True * False 2. You should wash your face several times a day if you have acne. * True * False 3. Eating greasy or oily foods causes acne. * True * False 4. Tanning clears up acne in men’s skin. * True * False 5. Where you work can affect your skin and cause acne. * True * False 6. Benzoyl Peroxide is the most effective ingredient for acne treatment. * True * False 7. Glycolic and Salicylic Acids are effective against acne. * True * False 8. If an acne medication causes your skin to get worse, you should stop using the acne product. * True * False 9. It takes 28 days for new cells to appear on the surface of men’s skin. * True * False 10. Acne-prone men should use noncomedogenic products. * True * False 11. Perspiration cleanses skin. * True * False 12. Teenagers (not real men) get acne. * True * False 13. Only men with oily skin get acne. * True * False 14. Acne is caused by bacteria. * True * False 15. Using a face scrub can control acne. * True * False 16. Acne is no big deal. * True * False ANSWER KEY: 1. FALSE: Popping pimples may seem to reduce their size, but it can actually aggravate blemishes by spreading bacteria, causing them to take longer to heal. Not only that, but popping or picking at pimples causes scars and dark spots to form. 2. FALSE: It’s important to have a clean face, but washing your face with force several times a day can cause your skin to produce more oil to make up for the moisture being washed away. Not to mention skin will become red and irritated. Your best bet is to wash once or twice a day with a gentle liquid cleanser that contains Salicylic Acid and Tea Tree extract. 3. FALSE: Pizza, chocolate and junk food have long been labeled “acne magnets,” but there’s very little scientific evidence to back up this claim. However, men should aim to eat a balanced diet full of vitamins from fruits and vegetables, and drink a lot of water for overall well-being. 4. FALSE: When you tan, dead cells build up on your skin’s surface. This can often cause your pores to look tighter and the surface to look smoother. Tanning also masks redness caused by acne. However, once the tan disappears, you’ll be left with greater outbreaks and darker acne scars and marks. Protect skin exposed to direct sunlight by regularly applying sunscreen (especially if using a treatment containing Benzoyl Peroxide). 5. TRUE: Men who work in places that put them in constant contact with grease and oil (restaurants and garages, for example) may find themselves breaking out more because oil creates an ideal environment for bacteria to reproduce. Although there’s no simple way to rectify this, they should clean skin gently at least twice a day and try to keep their hands from their faces at all times. 6. TRUE: Benzoyl Peroxide is an antibacterial ingredient prescribed by dermatologists as the preferred topical medicine for safe treatment for acne. It clears acne-causing bacteria on the surface, absorbs excessive oils and clear pores, while promoting greater cell exfoliation and renewal. Doctors also prescribe Green Tea, Urea and Allantoin to help soothe acne-irritated skin. Because Benzoyl Peroxide has powerful antibacterial and exfoliating qualities, it may take some time for skin to get used to the treatment. Once skin has become accustomed to the treatment however, irritation, redness or dryness usually disappears. The best bet is to apply a small amount only once a day, and then increase frequency gradually over 5 – 6 days. If too much dryness occurs, decrease frequency and gradually increase again. 7. TRUE: Glycolic and Salicylic Acids work very effectively to exfoliate dead skin cells and clear pores. By reducing pore blockage, acne has less of a chance to form and breakouts are reduced. Exfoliation with gentle products that contain Glycolic and Salicylic Acids helps smooth and clean skin, while also reducing instances of ingrown hairs as well. 8. FALSE: During acne treatment, skin often seems to take a turn for the worse before it begins getting better. This is due in part to the need to become accustomed to a treatment and the exfoliating process of shedding dead skin cells. The important thing is to keep usage regular. If, however, skin remains irritated for a long period of time, stop acne treatment and consult a doctor. 9. TRUE: It takes new cells 28 days to form and move through the epidermal layer of skin to finally appear on the surface. This is why results are not always immediately apparent. Using a product with Glycolic Acid may accelerate this process and help clear away dead skin cells. 10. TRUE: Noncomedogenic means ingredients in the product do not clog pores or provoke acne. Although it’s definitely recommended for men with oily skin, you should use non-irritating, noncomedogenic products no matter what skin type you have. All MenScience products have been developed by doctors and are noncomedogenic. 11. FALSE: Perspiration helps flush toxins from the body and maintains body temperature, but it does not cleanse skin at all. In fact, leaving sweat on your body can actually cause acne breakouts. Because of this, remember to take a shower or wash your face immediately after sweating heavily with a gentle cleanser several times a day. 12. FALSE: If only this were true! While acne outbreaks are often strongest during teen years (due to hormonal imbalances and improper skincare), acne can affect men their entire lives. Good skin health needs to be regularly maintained to avoid falling prey to blemishes. 13. FALSE: Acne can affect guys with any skin type, from dry to combination and even normal. Men with oily skin might be more susceptible to outbreaks, but they are by no means alone. 14. TRUE: Bacteria (P. acnes) play a big part in the creation of acne. Once a skin pore becomes clogged, acne bacteria begin to grow, causing blemishes to form. Benzoyl Peroxide is the most effective treatment for acne because it introduces oxygen into the bacteria, which kills it. 15. TRUE: Using a gentle exfoliating face scrub that contains Salicylic and Glycolic Acids can help clear pores of dirt and blockage, cutting down on the instances of acne. However, do not use a scrub if your acne is severe; it could aggravate your skin further. 16. TRUE….and FALSE: Acne is a painful, annoying condition, but it doesn’t need to negatively affect your lifestyle. While healthy skin is something we should all aim for, an occasional pimple or breakout is nothing to freak out about and can be treated with the right acne products. Remember: almost everyone is affected by acne. By using the most effective acne products and skincare techniques, there’s nothing to stop you from attaining a clear, healthy complexion. SCORING: 13-16 Answers Correct: Acne Expert 9-12 Answers Correct: Good job! Add to your acne know-how with more tips. 5-8 Answers Correct: Knowledgeable, but check out our articles for more info. 0-4 Answers Correct: Needs work. Discover how to treat acne with our expert advice.
About The Author
Deidra Garcia is a freelance writer and communications manager for MenScience Androceuticals, a men's skincare and grooming company. You can find more articles by Deidra, as well as further tips and advice, at http://www.MenScience.com.
Male Impotence Treatment: How Your Diet Can Influence Your Love Life!
by: Joe Barton
Imagine someone guaranteeing a cure for male impotence that is 100% natural, 100% legitimate and 100% works? I might be skeptical too! However, I would urge you to keep reading because this just might make your day. My name is Joe Barton and I work for Barton Publishing Inc., a natural health company, specializing in research and educating people of natural cures. Did you know what you eat and drink can influence how you perform in the bedroom? It's true, just like an athlete; your diet will hinder or enhance your performance. Take a look at 5 nutrition tips to begin your natural treatment for male impotence (erectile dysfunction). 5 Dieting Tips to Cure Male Impotence Male impotence is caused from lack of blood flow, but you can cure it with the proper foods which reduce plaque to arteries around your midsection. Here is a few tips to remember. 1. Always choose whole grains, fresh, unrefined and unprocessed foods. Avoid fast food, canned, and frozen foods. 2. Visit the produce aisle! Load up on fresh fruits and vegetables! 3. Lower your intake of animal products! You should avoid foods with high cholesterol including foods from animals or animal products. 4. Fiber a fine friend! Eat foods that are high in fiber which include grains, lettuce, fruits and vegetables. Consider these delicious food choices to help with impotence: Pears, Blueberries, Apples (with skin), Strawberries, Peas, Baked Potatoes, Spaghetti (whole grain), oatmeal and much more. 5. Water! The list is endless for the benefits of water. However, still most people do not get enough water each day. Water is a natural detox for the body and could be a factor for curing impotence. Extra Tip: Eat smaller meals more frequently and avoid large meals that make you feel full. A good suggestion is to eat 5-6 meals each day about the size of your fist. A Guaranteed Cure for Male Impotence Before you take a trip to the grocery store, consider other foods, exercises, vitamins and herbs that will also cure your impotence. Please take a minute and check out our 100% risk-free, money-back guarantee report which is helping hundreds of men naturally cure impotence. After almost four years in the natural health business, Barton Publishing has helped thousands by providing customers with 100% natural, 100% legitimate and 100% working remedies that cure! Our protected website also contains testimonials from our customers! http://www.naturallystiff.com/ed1
About The Author
Joe Barton writes for Barton Publishing Inc., a natural health company specializing in educating people of numerous natural remedies and safe, affordable cures. To discover how to naturally treat impotence, http://www.naturallystiff.com/ed1
Are Baby Gifts and Guys Mutually Exclusive?
Ever had a situation in which a gift was needed to be sent by you to someone for an occasion but you were absolutely stymied about what to give? I'm confident that this circumstance has occurred during the celebration for a new baby. This is especially true for the menfolk out there that generally have no inkling regarding the correct etiquette to guide their baby gifts choices. Guys, is there a type of gift that would hide your helpless ineptitude and actually show a sense of grace or, dare I say, savoir-faire? Absolutely, my male comrades! The answer is Baby Gift Baskets. They are simple to find on the internet and to dispatch to anyone, anywhere across the continental USA. It would be a bada bing - bada boom exercise that's a cinch to do. These gift baskets contain all of the cute and cuddly stuff that you won't have to shop for. Teething toys. bibs, booties, ducky and teddy bear items plus more can be magically brought together and purchased in one fell swoop. The baby gifts can also be customized for boy or girl. The basket itself is another gift that can add to the décor of the baby's room. Starting to see the light here, boys? Here's the plan, Stan. Go to Google or Yahoo or whatever and type in keywords or phrases that relate to the type of item to be purchased. How about "newborn baby gifts delivery" or "baby gifts" or ...Wait...I just had another startling cosmic revelation! Try "baby gift baskets" and press the Search button. Shaaazam! That should get you on your way to shopping for and choosing the right gift basket at the right price. You would then give instructions to the Baby Gift Basket online store of whom to send it to and where to ship the merchandise and by when. Then make a secure credit card payment that's within your financial wherewithal and the process is complete. No mall shopping anxiety. No carefully wrapping and packaging the gift. No impatiently standing in line at the Post Office to mail. Need I say more? You may have to sincerely ask yourself the question "What part of this don't I understand?" Read this article again if that's what it takes for you to realize how this advice has made you more sophisticated and worldly within the realm of Guydom. Take heed not to get all giggly once you grasp the concept because remember...You're a guy! Just pass me some pretzels and the remote and we'll call it even, OK?
About The Author
Brian F Connors is the owner of Gift Basket Paradise and wishes to share his insight regarding the challenges that confront all members of the male gender regarding babies and the shopping for thereof. He invites all of his befuddled brethren to thoughtfully examine http://www.agiftbasketparadise.com/baby_gift_or_gifts.html for wonderful baby gift basket ideas to consider.
The Science Behind Male Menopause
by: Nelson Howe
Once a man is in his mid-forties, he will eventually start to be concerned on the next stage of life, which is death. As a result, his apprehension of being next among those he knew who have passed away will eventually lead to several symptoms of which is often times referred to as “mid-life crisis”. This particular phase in a man's life is called male menopause or medically known as “andropause”. Loss of energy and fluctuation of man’s virility level are just some of the most notable indicator of andropause. This is because of the alteration of the production of male sex hormones. Generally, this problem occurs to a man during the age of 45 up to 55. Actually, andropause are two distinct stages that occur among males and are most of the time considered as one. As a matter of fact, mid-life crisis and andropause are associated with each other because mid-life crisis occurs to men between the ages of 35-45 years, which is before the andropause phase. On the other hand, andropause may occur early depending on the person will respond to his mid-life crisis; and may also be delayed if that particular person maintains a healthy and active lifestyle. Another symptom of andropause is the irregular loss of vitality. Meaning that particular person may be more irritable, significant loss of sex drives and the most notable is depression. Though most people consider these occurrences as normally caused by aging. In the field of medicine, andropause had become a disorder rather than a normal phase in a man’s life. That is why medical science is constantly finding ways to solve this problem. The predicament that usually occurs in a man’s life called andropause is not inherited nor is it natural to all men. That is because, unlike menopause – a predicament that occurs on women on the same of the same age — andropause can be avoided and treated. Stress is also one of the major factors that trigger andropause. Psychological stress and physical stress can lead to too much alcohol intake in the body and cigarette consumption. They can greatly aggravate the symptoms of andropause. Usually, the result of malnutrition or nutritional deficiency of the man’s body can lead to andropause. Symptoms such as nervousness, memory loss and low sex drive could be attributed to normal aging or shortage of chromium. However, not all men can experience the effects of andropause. Such crisis is considered by some as an insult to a male body. That is why, having a healthy lifestyle is the main weapon in order to avoid or minimize the effects of male menopause.
About The Author
Nelson Howe is a writer for http://www.malemenopausehelp.com, where you get information on the truth, dealing, and treating it.
10 Dating Tips for Divorced Men part 1
by: Cameron Teone
What do you do when you just went through a bitter divorce and now you find yourself on the single scene once again?? Where do you start? How do you meet women again? Do you know how to properly approach beautiful women? Sometimes, it appears that the times have drastically changed since you were last single. How do you begin anew? In my line of work, I get all sorts of clients and inevitably some of the men are divorced guys looking to work the single scenes, except they have no idea where to begin. It's been a quite a while since they hit the bar scene with the fellas and approached girls and now, what perhaps used to be second nature, feels a bit foreign. It seems as if the times have changed so much. Perhaps they never great at attracting women and they feel like they lucked out with that one girl they married, and now she is gone. Oh, what will they do now?? Now, I have to be honest with you. I have never been divorced. Then again, that may be because I have never been married either. My job is to help guys from all walks of life meet women, build attraction, and have a successful dating life. My job is to help men attract women. Whether you plan to get married again or not is none of my business. If you have been out of the scene for a while, you need to become acclimated into the single scene once again. Now, I am going to lay out a specific 10 Step program to enable you to effectively join the single scene again and start attracting more women. ***STEP 1- Attitude readjustment*** It all starts with your ATTITUDE. This is the first step! You have to make a decision. I can give you all sorts of dating advice but it won't do you any good until you decide that you want to get this part of your life handled. So you have a choice: You can either sit there, bitch and complain about how the times have changed, about how it's been so long since you have done the single thing, and what a shame it is, OR you can make a decision NOW to attract a great woman (women) in your life. If you are reading through this article, perhaps you have already made this decision! This is a time to celebrate your freedom! Chances are if you were married for 15 or 20 years, you were institutionalized, sort of like the character of "Brooks" from the classic movie "The Shawshank Redemption." If you've seen the movie, you know exactly what I am talking about. "Brooks" from Shawshank wanted to choose staying in a sadistic and brutal prison rather than celebrate a freedom that came with uncertainty. When you were married, things made sense even if the circumstances were atrocious. Now, things suddenly do not make sense and this is a scary feeling. You must realize that this is a temporary state, and it will pass. You're not the first man to become divorced, nor are you the last. In fact 60% of marriages end up in a divorce in some parts of the country so you're in pretty good company. Adjust your attitude. Start to realize that you have just opened the door to a world of new possibilities. Celebrate your new found freedom and the door that has just been opened to new possibilities. ***STEP 2- Burn your old clothes. Time for a makeover*** Look, I know it's possible that you were already a sharp dresser. Anything is possible!! We live in a country that lets Geraldo on TV! In my experience, however, most men have no clue how to dress properly and when it comes to married men, forget about it. In my experience, most married men I meet, have settled into a comfort zone where the sweatshirt over plain pants look has become their calling card. If you are back on the single scene, it'd help if you started to once again take care of your appearance. It's time to a grab a few new outfits, a pair of new shoes, and do some grooming. I understand how basic this sounds but you may be astounded as to how many guys I come across who fail their basic grooming. Just make sure your hair (don't care if it's completely shaved or in a pompadour,) your beard/goatee, looks like it's been cared for. Good Breath is on top of this list. The problem is most people including many of your buddies won't tell you that you have bad breath. They'll just run away. Our first step is to make certain that we are taking care of the basics. Change the way you dress, start grooming, and look presentable. Look like you're in demand and that you know it! ***STEP 3- Start Approaching*** Make an effort to approach more women and grow your social circle. You have to start socializing more with women as well as more men. Most married couples hang out with other married couples, talk about babies, fight over bills, and watch reruns of Law & Order. It's needless to say that regardless of the conversational topics, this particular social circle isn't going to introduce you to as many single women as you'd like to meet. Hence, it'd be very wise to start creating new social circles that include single people, or at the very least, people in relationships who are still in touch with the single world. You must realize that this takes some effort on your part. You ought to start initiating conversations with more women everywhere you go. Most people immediately think of going to bars and clubs. Depending on your age, taste, likes and dislikes, you may not be a bar/club guy. That's certainly understandable. You can still make an effort to approach women during your daily activities which could range from supermarket and coffee-shops to various classes, clubs, and the gym. You also may want to give online personals a try. I'd only advise you to utilize the personals as a supplemental means to meet women, not as your only means to meet new women. ***STEP 4- Start exercising again*** I am being a bit presumptuous here. If you're doing it already, that's fantastic. Most married guys start growing horizontally. Exercise will make you FEEL better physically, emotionally, and mentally. It will also boost your self-confidence which is of the utmost importance! Plus if you join a gym, you will meet new people, females as well as males. (Not to mention that it will improve your physical appearance.) This is not a ploy to pick up women. You'll feel better because of it! ***STEP 5- Establishing New networks*** Look to create a network of single friends who really enjoy going out and meeting women. Nothing would probably encourage you more to actually enjoy going out and meeting women more than surrounding yourself with a few guys who like to have a good time and socialize. Hanging with introverts who want to sit home and maybe play a card game or two is not going to help you meet more women. If you are going to hang with guys like that, then make sure you balance it with hanging with a few animals who want to hit the outdoor life. OK, we are half way there. Part 2 of this article covers the next 5 steps that will enable you to attract desirable women. Please continue to the next section. Wishing you the best, Cameron Teone Copyright (c) 2007 Cameron Teone
About The Author
Cameron Teone conducts dating workshops and seminars all around the country. He specializes in teaching men how to date and attract desirable women. You can learn more at, http://www.attractwomenanywhere.com/
How To French Kiss A Woman
by: Joshua Wong
It is an experience that most people would remember: their first French kiss. Some people would say it was a great experience while some would prefer not to mention it. But, we all know that French kissing is a very delicate and sensual experience. Research has said that women's lips are one of their erogenous zone, so it's important for men to leave a lasting impression with women. And if you French kiss her like no one else, you'll most likely to kiss something else of her next. The skill of kissing does not simply consist of knowing how to move your tongue inside a woman's mouth without hitting her tonsils. It involves the entire mouth - the lips, tongue, teeth, and the rest of the body. Here are some basics: 1) Give the lady a hand. Position your hands on her body while kissing her. Hold her face firmly but gently as you slip your tongue inside her mouth and suck on her lips. This will definitely make her toes curl. Also, try to gently pull her hair back from the back or slightly squeezing the part of her body that is located right under her breasts (her ribs). This could make for some very enticing kissing sessions. 2) Pay attention to the way she kiss. People often give out what they would like to receive, so pay attention to the way she kisses you. That could be an indication of the way she wants you to kiss her. Does she bite on your lips or try to gently suck all the saliva off your tongue? Reciprocate by doing the same. She will love you for it. 3) Tell her what you like. Does your loved one kiss you like she's trying to suck the life out of your body? Does she kiss too fast, too slow, or without using her tongue? Try not to tell her what you don't like, but rather what you do like. That way you won't hurt her feelings. 4) Control her mouth. The next time you kiss her, hold her face with your hands tenderly and kiss her the way you would like to be kissed. If she is not turn on by this, then your sensual tongue will surely do the trick. 5) Make it long-lasting. Women loved long, slow, juicy, and enticing kisses. Your partner will definitely feel your passion through one of those prolonged tender kissing moments. Just like in the movies, kiss her hard and deep. Now that you've discovered the basics of kissing, let's move on to some ways to make her think and want to kiss you all the time, hopefully. Here are some simple tips that can make you the ultimate Casanova: 1) Suck on her tongue. Turn your mouth into a soft suctioning device on her tongue. Suck on her tongue mimicking the way you would suck on a woman's clitoris. 2) Lick her lips with your tongue. Lick on her upper and lower lips in a slow, ticklish fashion. Once you have lubricated them adequately with your saliva, move your lips around her lips and let your saliva wet both of your mouths. 3) Suck on her lips. If licking her lips quickly makes her wanting more, then begin sucking on her lips. Do it one at a time as no one wants to feel as though they've stuck their mouth inside a vacuum. Be careful when you suck on her lips; don't get too rough or she will get turn off and pushes you off. You would not want that to happen, do you? 4) Move beyond her mouth. Don't be shy. You would not want to confine yourself to kissing just her lips. There's a whole face and body to explore. Go ahead and French kiss her chin, her neck and her breasts? Kiss her eyes, behind her ears or her wrists. Be bold and try something different. You'd be surprised at the results that a little creativity can produced. If you've never been complimented on your kissing techniques before, now you'll know the basics of being a professional kisser. A quick way to tell if she enjoyed the experience: when you kiss her and then pull back, her eyes stay closed for just a moment longer. This usually means that she thoroughly enjoyed your kiss and there's a good chance that you could take it a step further. Just remember that everything starts with a kiss.
About The Author
Joshua Wong works as an Accounts Executive and wants to promote awareness to good music and music appreciation. He's also into the concept of internet marketing. Visit http://www.e4l.biz/money.htm?wcw1908